Add clippy::self_only_used_in_recursion lint

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and use it instead of clippy::only_used_in_recursion when the parameter in question is self.

Fixes #10370

changelog: [only_used_in_recursion]: Don't lint if parameter is self; add pedantic self_only_used_in_recursion lint.

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