diff --git a/lib/mongoid/alize/to_callback.rb b/lib/mongoid/alize/to_callback.rb
index b8b14d7..03d1786 100644
--- a/lib/mongoid/alize/to_callback.rb
+++ b/lib/mongoid/alize/to_callback.rb
@@ -132,7 +132,11 @@ def set_callback
 
       def set_destroy_callback
         unless callback_attached?("destroy", aliased_destroy_callback_name)
-          klass.set_callback(:destroy, :after, aliased_destroy_callback_name)
+          if self.metadata.dependent == :restrict
+            klass.set_callback(:destroy, :after, aliased_destroy_callback_name)
+          else
+            klass.set_callback(:destroy, :before, aliased_destroy_callback_name)
+          end
         end
       end
 
diff --git a/spec/mongoid/alize/to_callback_spec.rb b/spec/mongoid/alize/to_callback_spec.rb
index 0f499f6..73846d1 100644
--- a/spec/mongoid/alize/to_callback_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/mongoid/alize/to_callback_spec.rb
@@ -69,7 +69,7 @@ def define_and_create(callback_name=:define_callback)
 
   describe "#set_destroy_callback" do
     it "should set a destroy callback on the klass" do
-      mock(@callback.klass).set_callback(:destroy, :after, "denormalize_destroy_to_head")
+      mock(@callback.klass).set_callback(:destroy, :before, "denormalize_destroy_to_head")
       @callback.send(:set_destroy_callback)
     end